Tuesday, November 15, 2011


Over the weekend I had some work done in the house. An ex brother-in-law and his son-in-law did the work for me. And like when they enclosed the double car garage into a room for me a year ago, they did a top notch job, at a very reasonable price. While fitting in a new closet door they had to remove some of the baseboard. Of course, he used some loud tool and not only did it stink but it made a mess. Dust went every where. But I knew they'd clean it up before leaving.

So...I'm sitting in my chair, working on the computer and watching syfy, when I hear them begin to clean up. First the tools, and garbage. Then they broke out the vacuum. I had a couple area rugs down and I glanced over just in time to see my ex brother-in-law pick one up and then proceed to shake it out. Not just a little. But like you might do when you take it out.

My jaw dropped. I couldn't believe what I was seeing. I snapped at him, that's not something you do in the house! He was making a bigger mess because all the dust and saw dust was flying all over the furniture, where as before it was mostly on the carpet. He just kind of chuckled like it was no big deal. His son-in-law and I exchanged a look and just shook our heads with disbelief.

Oh, they cleaned up their mess. But left a mess for me to clean up in the process. And it occurred to me, my hubby does the same thing. I honestly believe they have no clue what all we do to keep a house clean. Example: A conversation between hubby and me one afternoon.

It was a Saturday and I was puttering around the house. Hubby was sitting in his chair watching TV. I have an antique crock collection and was in the process of wiping them down, as well as the shelves they were on.

"What are you doing?" he asked.

"Cleaning," I respond.

"Why are you doing that?"

I looked at him...and smiled. "Why do you think? They're dirty. How do you think the house stays clean? I just twitch my nose and bam, everything is done?"

"I've never seen you clean them before."

He should never have got me started. "There are a lot of things you don't see me do around here, but the house is clean isn't it?  And we both know that you didn't do it."

He shut up and went back to watching his TV show.


tammy ramey said...

i love reading your blog, i always get a laugh out of it. i know that the people at my house think that the dishwashing and cooking is done by fairies or elves because nobody but me ever seems to relize it needs done. LOL!


Tory Richards said...

LOL...I guess women got the short end of the stick when God made us!

Nancy Bristow said...

Debbie/Tory...You may or may not agree (and I've mentioned this on occasion over the years) but I believe that women are mainly at fault for men thinking that magic cleaning fairies exist. If males were raised to participate in housekeeping chores as normally as females, it would become second nature for them to share the chores.

I often wonder how it is that men in the military are perfectly capable of keeping themselves squared away (regardless of their childhood housekeeping skills) and then allowed to forget those skills when discharged. I think a couple of things...they're allowed to get away with it because they can and secondly, there's a good chance they fail to live up to female standards (but not their drill sergeants) and are therefore relieved of chores they are perfectly capable of handling.

Think about it...barracks and gear are kept in anal retentive order. What doesn't translate here?

My take is that we women don't really have to live with the short end of the stick, but many choose to do so for whatever reason;) Just saying.... ~Nancy

Tory Richards said...

I totally agree with you Nancy! It's all in how we're raised. Doesn't mean the man is lazy, he just wasn't taught to do things around the house while growing up. Except for taking out the garbage and lawn work.