Friday, April 16, 2010

We've come a long way...

baby? I'm here at my daughter's today, spending time with my little granddaughter. I decided to clean up the kitchen to help my daughter out. As I'm doing the dishes it got me to thinking, there's three adults living in the household, why is it only her responsibility to clean up? She works 40 hours a week, too.

I'm wondering what it's like for other households. My hubby and I have a deal, he takes care of the outside and the cars and I'll do the inside. However, he's great at doing the dishes and laundry. I really appreciate coming home after working all day (he's retired) and not having to do them. I bet there's a lot of women out there who would love having less to face at the end of their day, or work week.

It really doesn't matter if you work or not. It's equality. If you're both using the dishes, making dirty clothes, etc., then what would it hurt if you shared in those chores?

I mean, it's not like men have to open the door for us anymore:)


Sweet Vernal Zephyr said...

Once my man noticed how harassed an harried I would become upon coming home from work to have: the pets begging for food
him begging for food
and the dishes begging to be done...

He picked up the gauntlet and helps me out. And some nights he will even tell me to leave the dishes for him to do tomorrow! *sighlovesigh*

Nancy Bristow said...

Debbie...All I can say is that the more evolved men do share chores and responsibilities with their partner...hopefully in a fair manner.

It seems an easy assignment to me since if the other person didn't exist, they, in fact, would be handling it all. Every single, solitary thing. The nature of the chore wouldn't even be a consideration. ~Nancy

Tory Richards said...

And that reminds me Sweet, my hubby will also clean out the cat box a couple times a week for me.

How nice that your husband noticed and took action:)

Tory Richards said...

Yeah Nancy, but I think some of the problem is that some men have always had someone taking care of them, so doing the dishes or laundry doesn't enter their minds.

Plus, I think some women bring it on themselves. You know, we spoil our men in the beginning by fixing their plates, picking up after them. Then we say they're taking us for granted! LOL

Nancy Bristow said...

Oh absolutely Debbie, doing household chores such as cooking, cleaning and laundry doesn't enter some men's minds until it's a necessity or because too many were raised without it being a part of their every day living routine.

Women can definitely blame themselves for this oversight but fortunately not all women took this path and there are men who grow up and get a clue by observation and/or necessity.

Sounds like Jennifer has a real partner with gentlemanly overtones. Very nice combo.

I've never bought into men not being capable of taking care of themselves or others. Women may approach a task differently, but each can still get it done.

The best part is that if one or the other half of a couple isn't happy with the current chore division, it can be changed. We're adults now and capable of discussion and compromise (at least that's what the fine print says;) ~Nancy

Tory Richards said...

You are one lucky woman Jennifer and it's clear your man loves you a lot. Do you rent him out? LOL

Tory Richards said...

Yep, I agree Nancy. You can't change it if you don't talk about it.