Saturday, April 10, 2010

Some People...

As I was getting ready to go into Wal-Mart the other day a little old lady was trying to come out the door. It was the side door, and the kind you have to open yourself. She was clearly struggling so I opened the door and held it for her. Then her cart gets caught on the side because she miscalculates the opening. A man picks the front of the cart up for her and arranges it so it clears the doorway.

Do you know, we didn't so much as get a smile of acknowledgement from her? No thank you...eye contact...nothing. As she walked past me I said, "You're welcome." She just kept right on going like she was the flipping queen or something. The man and I just exchanged smiles, shook our heads and continued on our way.


Cindy W. said...

It's sad to think that some people can need help, they accept help, but they fail to acknowledge the help. Something that bothers me is when you go to fast food restaurants and the help is NO help at all. Today my husband and I ventured into a Chik-Fil-A and we encountered the SWEETEST people working there. From the counter person, to the people coming around to see it we needed our drinks refilled to the person taking our tray to empty our trash. The place was packed wonder...they treat the public well.

Have a wonderful day!

Cindy W.


GladysMP said...

I am not as surprised about your experience as I would like to be. It seems that good manners and genuine gratitude are becoming actions from the past. I fear that some of this at least is due to children now being reared by outsiders and not by their actual parents. Noone is going to be as interested in one's children and seeing that they develop nice manners and express gratitude as are their parents. It is sad when one is actually surprised when they receive a simple, "Thank you."

Nancy Bristow said...

Debbie...There are for sure some old people that are just miserable, irritating and cranky. Some catch an attitude early on in life and refuse to give it up no matter what their age. We'd like to think all people gain wisdom and some insight as they age but it simply isn't so for everybody.

At any rate, it takes nothing away from you and the other gentleman's kindness and I'd rather be in your shoes than hers any day. You can feel good about yourself, too bad she doesn't.

I'll also offer a counter story because it just happened last night and I got the sweetest reward ever. It was after 11:30pm and I was able by some small miracle to return a young man's lost dog to him. I didn't know him or the dog. When we eventually connected his first question to me was if he could give me a hug and I opened my arms. From there he went on to thank me profusely and offer anything at all that he could do to ever help me (He even got specific like moving furniture or hauling something, or whatever). He doesn't live in my complex but in one a few minutes away). I refused a reward.

The dog had accidentally slipped out of his collar while being walked and had run away. That means he was loose with no collar and thus no ID of any kind. It was very dark, the dog was a very large black Labrador (found out later he was still basically a puppy at one year), and very strong. It was obvious the dog was frantically searching for his owner. I watched him run up and down three flight of steps in the condo building sniffing at doors. Meanwhile, the owner had been searching for him for over an hour and his parents had taken to driving the streets to see if they could help locate him.

I was beside myself but after I had brought the dog inside with me I simply couldn't turn him back out on the street with the chance of him getting maimed or killed by traffic. By now it's almost midnight and no one to answer the phone at the nearest shelter. The small miracle was when I decided to put a make shift lead on the dog and walk him around in hopes that the owner was out looking. And, that's exactly how we connected. The young man's no holds barred joy at the return of his dog spoke to me like nothing else.

In the past, I've rescued other dogs for their safety...obviously my big soft spot...and received less than a gracious thank you when the pet was returned so I know how that feels too. This time it was way better. The owners response felt like a gift and it was...he didn't stop looking for his cherished pet and I didn't ignore the fact that the cherished pet was lost....Nancy

supernatural said...

It's so sad that some elderly people expect all those kindnesses because of their age. And still they don't as much as acknowledge the fact that they are thankful. But you are the bigger and better person for your actions and how you handles it. I agree with Nancy, some people never give up their attitudes and it's better to be in your shoes then hers.
Carol L.

Tory Richards said...

Hi Cindy, you are so right! I'm a firm believer that you treat people the way you want to be treated. And I don't know anyone who doesn't like to be treated well.

Tory Richards said...

Another great point, Gladys. Sad but true.

Tory Richards said...

What a wonderful, warm story Nancy! It does make me feel good when I help someone, whether they appreciate it or not. The man obviously loved his dog a lot, and your good deed will be repaid some day, you just wait:) What comes around goes around, or something like that.

Tory Richards said...

Ditto, Carol!