Sunday, June 21, 2009

Does There Have to be SEX in a Romance?

To hold your interest? And what about anticipation?

Over the years, when I used to have time for reading, I'll admit that I expected there to be sex somewhere in a story. I loved the anticipation leading up to the moment, and when the author delivered I was happy. But, those times the author closed the door and left it to my imagination I was so disappointed that I often put the book down and refused to finish it. All except for Kathleen E. Woodiwiss's books. Reading "The Wolf and the Dove" and "The Flame and the Flower" back in the early 70's, I didn't expect to read the explicit details between a man and a woman when they made love.

Now a days there's sex and plenty of it in romance novels. When I wrote "Cupid's Arrow" I wrote a lot of sexy situations between the characters that didn't deliver in the end. I felt that the anticipation of the big moment, when it finally came, would make up for the number of love scenes in the book. Quality over quantity.

Though it was my first book and is considered a sweet, traditional romance, it's probably one of my personal favorites. I really enjoyed building the relationship up between Mike and Emma. Feeling their sexual frustration and how they dealt with it, had me wanting to write more. I wanted to prolong their first time because I felt building up to it was just as important. And when they made love for the first time it was sensual, emotional and very fulfilling.

Do you expect there to be sex in a romance novel? Do you need for the hero and heroine to consummate their love for each other or are you okay with guessing what happens behind closed doors? My imagination isn't that good. I want to read the words.


housemouse88 said...

Hello Debbie,

It really depends on the genre I'm reading as to whether I except a sex scene. I don't necessarily have to have explicit sex scenes for me to read a book. It depends on the mood I'm in as to whether I want nice or hot in my reading. I vary from day to day. Have a great day.

booklover1335 said...

Hi Debbie,
I only read romance, and I do expect to have sex scenes in the book, but they don't have to be explicit as long as the passion and emotion is expressed that for me makes the a love scene. And I do mean love scene, not sex scene, it's just that for me one of the best expressions of love is sex.

Vicky said...

Hmmm. I'm trying to decide how to answer this. Well, since they are romances, I have kind of learned to expect them, but I also love the stories when the authors close the doors. Because I write Young Adult (even if it isn't published yet), I have to close the door. There have only been a few times where the characters have actually been physical and in that case, I have to let it blur out and leave it to the imagination. I read all genres, not just romances, but in regular fiction, I love a good love story. So, I'm totally with you on this. I love the build-up. If you've ever read Susan Andersen, she is the best at this. The sexual tension helps build the emotional relationship in some ways so that when it comes down to the physical relationship, it's that much more satisfying. But really, either way is fine with me. I do enjoy love scenes just because they can be really emotional and really sweet. I hope that made sense. lol. Whew! That was long.

Nancy Bristow said...

Debbie...The hotter the better for me and it goes without saying I want passion and emotion surrounded by a dynamite story along with it. I don't buy romance books because I want to guess at what's going on...I want details grasshopper....Nancy:)

P.S. Actually I think there are a good many romance books that should be mandatory reading for most males on the would open the universe for them.

Tory Richards said...

Great responses, all of you ladies. Thanks for stopping by:)

Hi housemouse88, what's your favorite genre?

I couldn't agree more, booklover1335. There has to be emotion.

Vicky, you hit the nail on the head, too. The sexual tension helps build the emotional relationship in some ways so that when it comes down to the physical relationship, it's that much more satisfying.

Not surprised at your answer, Nancy:) And like you, I like hot. I can use my imagination if need be but I like the words.