I have a friend who's going through a divorce. She still loves her husband and believe it or not, he says he still loves her. He's the one who wanted the divorce. The main reason? Declining health and mounting medical and hospital bills.
His reasoning is that if they divorce and put the house in her name, if anything happens no one can take the house from her. He feels he's protecting her. She didn't want the divorce and fought it until there were no more excuses not to sign the papers. They've been together a long time and she can't help feeling all those years together and everything they've been through is all for nothing.
They plan to remain living together and to act like nothing has changed, but she's not sure she can go through with that. She's lost more than she's gained and has already begun to feel bitter over the change. His daughters from his first marriage now have more rights with regard to him and any decisions that might need to be made in the future, than she does.
Signing a little piece of paper shouldn't change anything, but it does. Maybe not their feelings but it certainly changes things like joint accounts, wills, health decisions, etc. My friend feels that she doesn't matter anymore.
I don't know what to say to her to make her feel better.